A connector is somebody who freely makes and takes introductions. A separator is somebody who actively tries to drive a wedge between relationships.
Connectors broker relationships because they intelligent discourse among smart people.
Everybody wants to view themselves as connectors as it feels magnanimous, friendly and congenial. But how many introductions have you made this month? How many unsolicited recommendations have you written and done so without demanding credit for it ? Connectors do what they do to make the world a closer knit and open place.
Conversly, do you speak negatively about people not around to defend themselves? Do you try to discredit people? If so, you are likely a separator and the world needs less of your type… but the good news is you can change.
The next time you’re asked for an intro between two people with whom you have respect, make it. Set up a mentoring session for somebody in your organization. Make a connection between people who have a common interest. People will remember it and will at some point repay the favor to the world. Even if they don’t connect you to somebody, they will be more likely connect two people down the road.